I was hanging with my friend Ali @MrMuhammad today. He’s a 40-something year old man. We sat for hours and talked about beauty. Surprising, but true. He would asked me questions, on Spiritual-Beauty, Tangible-Beauty, Personal-Beauty…and I would give long winding answers. All recorded digitally of course. Where were we going with all of this?? One might ask. Well, I’m obsessed with beauty. And Ali, well, he’s interested in understanding obsessions, I guess.
There is so much irony in what I do. I’m in the beauty industry. But I hate the message the industry pushes. I love beauty. But I am not much concerned with make-up or having the ‘perfect’ body. Hummm.
Here’s how crazy it is. The industry is structured around the allure of ‘transformation”. Women are constantly encouraged to transform their faces, hair and bodies into sexier, younger and essientiallly “better” versions of their natural selves. In return, they’re promised richer, happier and “better” lives. The lies: Women need fixing. Women are broken versions of who they could be. Lotions & potions will fix the problem – one eyelash, one hairstrand, one color shade at a time.
The micro management of a woman’s body drives me nuts.
I’m part of this industry. I love beauty. And I too share the goal of transformation. Yet, the change I’m talking about is a metamorphasis from the inside out. Not the reverse. This type of change does take some time, in fact, it usually occurs when we’re past ‘caring too much’ and ‘trying too hard’ and ‘dying to be her’. It happens later on in our lives, when we’ve decided we don’t want to be anyone but ourselves. At that exact moment, ironically, is when we become our most beautiful selves.
“The most beautiful people we know are those who have know defeat, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity , and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elizabeth Kubler Ross
I’m not sure if pain and beauty go hand-in-hand. Perhaps. But I do believe it’s a slow, natural process with many twists and turns to truly BEING beautiful.
Let’s get in the Activity of Being Beautiful.